Susan Silva
The Crown Jewel of Dancesport Championships
A Triple Crown Event
Report by Susan Silva
Photos by Decadance Photography, Tony Eng
“You are the jewels in our crown”, is the statement written on the welcome page letter of the program by Larry and Dianne Dean.
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“IDENTIFYING RELATIONSHIPS YOU CAN TRUST”
We all have many different kinds of relationships throughout our lives, they enter and exit at various times, but very few stay permanently.
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DANCE LIFE COACHING
A Column To Help Dancers Journey In Life
By Susan Silva
“WHAT HAPPENED TO THEATRICAL BALLROOM?”
Theatrical Ballroom Dance has and always will be very close and dear to my heart, since it was one of the divisions that I competed and was a champion in.
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Constitution State Challenge Dancesport Championships
Report by Susan Silva
Photos by Ryan Kenner Photography
The twenty-fifth year of the Constitution State Challenge Dancesport Championships, organized by Ron, Lee, and Christa Cote was held October 10,11,12 in Stamford, Connecticut.
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“A KINGDOM DIVIDED CANNOT STAND”
By Susan Silva
A Column To Help Dancers Journey In Life
You might be saying to yourself, what does the title of this article, “A Kingdom Divided Cannot Stand” have to do with Ballroom Dancing?
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DANCE LIFE COACHING
A Column To Help Dancers Journey In Life
By Susan Silva
“DANCE FROM YOUR SOUL”
There is a place in all of us that can be touched in a very deep way, either positively or negatively. For most of us we have experienced both spectrums. This place is what many people call our soul. What is the soul? The simplest definition I have found is described as where our deepest emotions are lodged inside of us. A Biblical description of a soul tells us that we are a three part being, we live in a body, have a soul which is where our mind, will and emotions lodge, and we have a spirit where we can get in touch with God. Dancing from your soul takes being able to open up our inner being and to get in touch with our feelings. This is not always easy, and many times people do not want to do this because of what is called soul wounds. I will talk more about this at the end of this article.
Music is a key to making the ballroom dance come alive and have feeling. I realize that in competition we do not pick our own music, so it becomes more difficult if the music itself has no soul. But when we have music that is meaningful, the dancer has an opportunity in what I call “becoming the music”, and dancing from their soul. Unfortunately even the best dancers sometimes do not get in touch with their soul, their partners, and the music. We can get so caught up in all the technical aspects and body movements that we no longer give our soul to the dance we are doing. When watching couples dance and even in judging, what is it that stands out the most from a couple? To me it is their relationship to each other and the music. Each partner must relate to the other from their soul in order to draw the audience in. In the recent Dancing With The Stars television show, Maks and Meryl won, but more important they danced from their souls and drew the audience into their dancing. Partners, who dance this way, make themselves vulnerable to each other, allowing their feelings to also dance.
To put this into a simpler perspective I will give two examples from other than dance. My late cousin, Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach, gave this example in one of his commentaries: “a poor man walks in, and two people give him a dollar. If you look at them from the outside, they both did the same thing. But if you look very deep, one gave a dollar and one gave everything there is. Sometimes two different people shake your hand. One person shook your hand, and the other person shook your soul.”
In Ballroom Dancing two different couples are on the floor competing, and they both did the same movements. But if you look very deep they are very different, because one couple danced the movement from their innermost souls. To dance from your soul you must perform more than just the steps; listen to more than the music playing. You must listen to your heart expression and let your soul dance. Dancing from that place is what really makes a great dancer.
Recently I was coaching a number of pro-am students getting ready for a competition. The one thing that stood out in all of the women dancers was that they were not dancing in touch with the music or their teacher. The students were so nervous about their steps, and placement, there was no feeling in their dancing at all. Of course we need technique, posture, correct placement in dance positions, but I find that many teachers lose track of why a person wants to dance. Every ballroom dance has a soul, a feeling that needs to be taught not just the technique. As I began to get the students to relax and focus on the particular feeling of the dance, the music came alive, they enjoyed themselves more, and they began to dance from their souls.
Soul wounds can affect your entire life and your dancing. You might be asking, “what are soul wounds, and how do they happen? There are many ways that soul wounds occur. Any painful event can wound you, and can also affect your physical health. Doctors have reported that 80% of disease comes through a traumatic event. Some examples are being rejected either in childhood, or as an adult, this could be through a personal relationship or even as a dancer. A long-term illness or an accident can leave a soul wound. Abuse of any kind, physical or verbal when not dealt with leaves a soul wound.
In my own life here are two examples. I can remember that when I was nine years old and on scholarship in NYC at a famous ballet school being told that my back was not strong enough to do point. My dream was to be a ballerina, but that stopped right then and there. Years later I realized I had a soul wound of rejection and hurt deep inside which needed healed. My healing came as I acknowledged this feeling, let it go, and let go of the resentment I had toward my ballet teacher. I then needed to replace it with a positive attitude focusing on what I was able to accomplish in my dancing. Looking back I realized that all my ballet training helped me in becoming a ballroom theatrical champion.
I have also experienced illness that affected my soul. I became ill in 2003, misdiagnosed for two years and wound up in a wheel chair. Finally after seeing tons of doctors I found out it was post-lyme, and it had gone into my immune system. I thought I would never dance again, but through faith, prayer, and the right treatments I did dance again in 2007. I danced to a piece of music that was very special to me. I had listened to it over and over for a period of time, and dreamt of dancing to it. As I became stronger physically I choreographed this piece of music together with a ballroom teacher I knew, and we finally danced it at an event. This healed my soul wound. It says in the book of Psalms, “God turns your mourning into dancing.” You can heal soul wounds through the art of ballroom dance, and especially through music that means something to you. If any of you reading this article realize that you need help with a soul wound that is affecting your ballroom dancing, feel free to get in touch with me.
I encourage you to get closer to yourself, to the deepest depths of you and Dance From Your Soul!
Susan Silva is an NDCA National Championship Certified Adjudicator in all styles of Ballroom Dance plus the Performing Arts. Former Theatrical, Exhibition, and American Style Champion. Broadway, Television, and Film Performer, toured with the Beatles in the mid 60’s, Author of a Theatrical Ballroom Syllabus, Choreographer & Lecturer. Available for judging, lectures, choreography, and coaching. Susan is also a Personal Dance Life Coach, certified and ordained to council people in all areas of life. For questions or Contact Info: [email protected], phone: 860-984-8387
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DANCE LIFE COACHING
A Column To Help Dancers Journey In Life
By Susan Silva
“AFFECTING ETERNITY”
ETERNITY- A word that many of us do not really think about, especially in our busy ballroom dance schedules. Yet Eternity exists, whether we understand it or not, and we can affect it with decisions we make in our own lives. Many famous people, like inventors, doctors, scientists, builders, educators, ministers, astronauts, and dancers have affected eternity and life on planet earth. So what is Eternity? Looking into the famous Webster’s dictionary some definitions are: “state of being eternal; Eternal=infinite in duration, having no beginning or end, timeless”.
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DANCE LIFE COACHING
A Column To Help Dancers Journey In Life
By Susan Silva
“COPING WITH STRESS”
As I sit here and write this article, I am once again snowed in and cannot go out or do very much. I can choose to stress over this, since there are many things I needed to accomplish or just take a deep breath and let the stress go. As children most of us were happy when snow came, no school and we could play. But as adults with a busy life, especially in the Ballroom Dance Industry, snow is not good. For instance this weekend is a competition in Boston, where many people need to travel to, and may not make it because of the weather.